Posted by Racer on May 26, 2008, at 11:16:17
In reply to Re: it's a heart-breaking situation...., posted by overtheedge on May 23, 2008, at 21:06:12
Thanks for telling me about your experience. I'm doing the "Oh, I can't go -- I'm too fat, they'll never believe me" thing, AND the "I'll go, but I will do my best not to gain weight" thing -- but I think I am going. My psychiatrist is out of town this week, so I have to see if his office can do the insurance thing without him, or if we have to wait for him to get back. I'm hoping they can get it going without him. Or, maybe I'll talk to my GP and my therapist about having them get together on the insurance.
In my case, it's much less about weight gain -- I'm roughly at the BMI that many insurance companies use for discharge criteria, so it's not critical at all. The problem I'm having, which triggered this idea, is that I don't have enough support at home to get through some of what I have to do in therapy. Mostly having to do with childhood trauma, which I understand Renfrew actually has a special track for? That's what my therapist wants me to go to Renfrew for -- here at home, I fall apart over some of this stuff, and have no one to help me get through it. My therapist can't come home with me -- hell, she only works three days a week, so she can't even see me the following day in most cases. So, being in a safe, secure environment, without having to deal with the responsibilities at home, might allow me to get through this stuff safely.
See, at home, my husband isn't just neutral -- the pattern is like a little kid with his mother: if I'm upset, he won't help out or try to take care of me -- he will get clingy, and keep coming to me to do something for him, and that makes things worse. It's gotten so bad once or twice -- years back -- that I've actually had him take me to the ER to get away from him. And if I'm checking into a psych ward to get away from him because I'm going through a rough patch myself -- well, there's something wrong.
And, frankly, I've been so depressed lately, and feeling so hopeless, I think just getting away would be a godsend for me about now...
Thanks again for sharing your experience with me. How did you find the therapy there? I'm told it's pretty much psychodynamic? Not the straight CBT style? What else can you tell me?
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