Posted by gardenergirl on February 1, 2004, at 11:03:33
In reply to Re:Re:Icons » gardenergirl, posted by 64Bowtie on February 1, 2004, at 1:39:57
> Hi, gg,
>
> I have a naive question: how did two narcissistics find each other and get along long enough to have a child? Did I mention my question was naive?My parents actually were married for just over 20 years and had three kids. Dad got his needs met through work and alcohol. He was a sales engineer. Mom got her needs met through the kids, and thus, the emotional limp you mentioned. It's actually getting better through psychodynamic psychotherapy. Corrective emotional experiences and parental transferences and all. And it became inherently more obvious to me what I have missed all these years when my parents have not acknowleged my Master's degree or my recent passing of my clinical competency exam. I assume when I defend my dissertation, there will be a similar void. Now I look to others I can count on and inside for validation.
> I assume that true Sociopaths and true Narcissistics are "icons of the unreachable" for therapy and recovery practices. Am I deluded about this?
I would agree with you about true sociopaths that they are mostly unreachable. I'm not sure about true narcissists. I suppose if you initially feed their needs while gently confronting, especially if there is a relationship problem they are facing, you could convince them to change themselves instead of changing the other partner. But it would be very difficult. It would have to take a very savvy and experienced, not to mention patient T to get there.
>Sadly, you were given a full dose of information regarding that affliction of the infinitely self-centered.
I'm not sure what you mean by this.
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> I hope your "emotional limp" you walk with isn't as noticeable as mine.I wish that neither of us had a limp.
Take care,
gg
>
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