Posted by Twinleaf on January 28, 2014, at 19:55:13
In reply to Re: strange goal, posted by Dr. Bob on January 28, 2014, at 17:29:11
The reason she won't drink the water is that she thinks the civility rules are biased excessively against reasonable freedom of speech as well as reasonable standards of communication. The moderator can decide that anything he does not wish to hear constitutes a civility violation; he may also misunderstand or misinterpret what has been said. None of that ever matters; the community member is invariably punished even though he/she may honestly not understand what is wrong. To object to the fairness or reasonableness of a PBC means incurring progressively severe punishments.
This type of arbitrary punishment, unmodified by anything resembling a clarifying discussion, is very similiar to what people who have been traumatized have already experienced in their past lives. Part of becoming healthier in therapy is learning what is and is not compatible with good mental health, as well as learning what behaviors ( one's own and others') are to be avoided. I feel that acceding, without speaking up, to arbitrary, dictatorial punishments which one does not always understand or feel to be appropriate does not meet the standards one needs for healthy self-confidence and self- esteem.
The fact that these civility standards are now purposely and arbitrarily applied differently to each person is a separate distressing issue.
Almost everyone who felt as I do has left Babble by now; the few who remain appear to subscribe to the civility guidelines as they understand them.
The old nag will probably get so thirsty that she will have to go elsewhere in search of safe, clear water.
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