Posted by alexandra_k on December 15, 2013, at 17:21:55
In reply to Re: Would you expect the same of other media? » alexandra_k, posted by SLS on December 15, 2013, at 16:49:20
> I guess there is a balance in there somewhere. I don't like to see people in distress who have no sense of control.
I don't think anybody likes that. Does your seeing it motivate you to do something to help the situation or does your distress / lack of skills prevent your helping?
In such a circumstance... I guess the idea is... Firstly... Do no harm.
> Or is it a good thing that people get so upset that it calls others into action?If that is what happens then that seems to be a good thing, yeah.
But sometimes people get so upset that the action of others can become more organized around alleviating their upset than on contributing positively towards the initial situation. In this case I would say that it would be better if the people hadn't looked / seen.
I think mostly people don't act appropriately because they lack the tools / skills, yeah. Being continually confronted by situations / circumstances where one feels powerless can be hard, yeah.
Unsustainable.
Need time out. For sure. Need... Need to not look sometimes. Otherwise... Too overwhelming.
I think there is truth to how you need to look after yourself BEFORE you can look after other people. Partly (mostly) why I couldn't actually do anything at all to help the people over on the north shore was because I didn't have space that I felt was properly my own to do my work (where my work makes me feel competent and productive and in control at least sometimes).
It simply might be the case that... In order to function I always need my own seclusion cell / apartment. To decompress. Without that... I can't face anything at all. I can't behave in an integrated way... Or maybe I can learn to feel competent, productive, and in control in a way that reduces the need for isolation. I don't know...
Point being... Most of my life has been / currently needs to be spent not looking at various things. Not that I have been particularly functional over the years... Looking / seeing more wasn't likely to have made me more functional, though, pretty sure on that. What I really needed: Was to be someplace quiet and pretty for a while. Where others could simply ignore me. Where the only ugly things I see... Are memories / possible futures inside of me...
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