Posted by Dinah on October 12, 2013, at 8:45:07
In reply to Re: support, posted by Dr. Bob on October 12, 2013, at 0:56:56
I appreciate your desire to help us feel supported, Dr. Bob. But I fear your efforts might lead to more pain for us as people explain why they can't give it.
How long has it been since we have had active deputies? My wish would only be for people to give up already on mentioning us in any complaints against current management. How long must we be punished? If we are willing, as I certainly am, to try to move past past hurts from posters, why can't others at least leave us alone?
The unkindnesses to us are far less than they once were. But it's like water on stone. The constant drip drip drip of negative comments. Why bother? There are no present deputies, and none are expected.
If people think we were misguided, or unkind, or cruel... If people don't realize how often we tried to avert blocks entirely... If people don't realize how we agonized over fairness and supportiveness... Well, can't they at least be glad we're no longer here as deputies? And in most cases not even here anymore as posters or administrative supporters. Is that not punishment enough?
Must people bring it up again and again and again? It isn't necessary to say whatever is in one's mind. If it is no longer relevant, why continue to mention it? The only result is to cause pain among present and former deputies. If that's not the goal, then why bother? If that is the goal, then it is being achieved and I wish those people who can be happy in it happy in it.
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