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Re: hopelessness

Posted by Dr. Bob on August 10, 2013, at 1:53:06

In reply to I tried not to do this, posted by Dinah on August 9, 2013, at 12:49:10

> I felt very hurt by your words and lashed out. I expect 10der and Twinleaf may have felt hurt as well. I think maybe we don't feel heard or respected. I would hate to see this all snowball.
>
> Perhaps you could remember that those who stuck by you so loyally weren't in on your decision to change, and are confused and hurt by your decisions. I *think* that they are more likely to respond well to a frank and open discussion about what you intend for Babble, even if there is no agreement.

I'd also hate for this to snowball. That's one reason I posted the PBC. People are more likely to be heard and respected if they're civil.

I understand that change is hard for everyone. I've been trying to discuss this change frankly and openly.

> all I can *do* to change anything is to distance myself when I can't like what is happening. Other people may be able to achieve a wider range of emotional response.
>
> Butting my head against the solid rock of Bob and expecting anything but a sore head hurts no one but me.
>
> Have no hope. Hope hurts.

> I'm sorry if my attempt to encourage hopelessness caused anyone any pain. Hopelessness, in some situations, has served me well.

On the one hand, you could say I was encouraging hopelessness myself by reposting Tabitha's post. OTOH, you could also frame "hopelessness" as the serenity to accept the things you cannot change.

Bob


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