Posted by Dr. Bob on May 29, 2013, at 18:36:10
In reply to Re: Recalcitrance, and not being pushed out, posted by Willful on May 28, 2013, at 10:43:44
> And moreover, in the justifiable desire to counter incorrect facts in the posts on that thread, the original poster was lost as the focus.
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> I think maybe in such cases, the post and replies to it should be moved to a new thread, to allow the original poster to receive pertinent replies.I came close to doing that, but thought the focus did return to the original poster.
> I'm also wondering whether it would be ok with Dr. Bob if posters gently remind newcomers that it's ok to state that certain types of posts (such as blanket anti medication posts) wouldn't be helpful. Last I heard, Dr. Bob had agreed to enforce that request.
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> DinahIt's OK with me, and I'll still enforce such requests. Please don't pressure posters to make them, however.
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> Please do not rely upon your hopes to change someone else's behavior as a condition of your staying at PB. I doubt it will happen.
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> - Scott> I've generally found that it's better not to do anything at all with the expectation of a desired response.
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> DinahI heard a talk by Walter E. Brackelmanns at the APA and liked (and tweeted) his 4 rules of intimacy:
1. No criticizing
2. No defending
3. No demanding
4. No losing control of angerHoping to change someone else's behavior wouldn't be consistent with #3.
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> only if good people fail to act will fears and irrational imaginings triumph.
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> WillfulI'm trying to continue to act. Anybody else?
Bob
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backpedals well -- PartlyCloudy
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