Posted by SLS on January 22, 2013, at 3:46:58
In reply to Re: Abuse of posters, posted by Solstice on January 21, 2013, at 23:43:08
> > > Scott - while I don't disagree with the OP's message, I want you to know that when you have intervened on my behalf in the past, it was a powerful experience... made me feel sturdier.. sucked the sting out of the abusive behavior coming toward me. So maybe it's not an either/or. Maybe it's both. One's not 'wrong' and the other 'right.' The OP's style can be very, very effective. But your heart-driven eloquent confrontations that feel protective to the poster being targeted are equally effective. At least they were for me.
> > I would like to extend to you my heart-felt appreciation for your affirmations of me. While I am sure that my "style" is derided by many, it is truly important to me to know that it is not universally so.
> >
> derided by many? Pro'ly closer to "some" or maybe even "a few."
>
> Your 'style' of confronting abusive/bullying behavior tends to be mater-of-fact, balanced, often even gracious toward the offender.Thanks.
I am trying to be more deliberative and less impulsive in my posting behaviour.
> Your impatience shows only when the offender is persistently arrogant and escalates.
That's a good observation. I have always thought that arrogance and ignorance makes for a lethal combination. Even if outcomes are not so dramatic, people with these traits carry negative energy and cynicism along with them where ever they go. They can suck the positive energy out of a room with a single word. Man, that pisses me off.
> With respect to silence vs sanding up and speaking....
>
> what's the old Edmund Burke line? "All that's necessary for the forces of evil to win... is for enough good men to do nothing.":-)
Good one.
You make a pretty good antidepressant! You brought a smile to my face and a boost to my self-esteem. Thank you.
Be well.
- Scott
Some see things as they are and ask why.
I dream of things that never were and ask why not.- George Bernard Shaw
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