Posted by muffled on December 3, 2010, at 12:19:48
In reply to Re: blocked for week » odon, posted by Dr. Bob on November 29, 2010, at 1:43:56
> > an idiot like Bob.
>
> Please don't post anything that could lead others (including me) to feel put down.
> Thanks,
>
> Bob*Y'know Bob, I had just this thing happen w/y Teen kid.
We don't like the word idiot in our household and it is not to be used.
But my son, being the teen he is, the other day, in frustration, called me an idiot.
Well, I felt hurt and told him so.
I told him, we do not use that word.
He said 'I know'. I waited. He said 'sorry'(lol, in not a very sorry way!!!-but I guess the seed was planted...)
The point was made that it was innapropriate. He hasn't done it again(yet!).
I didn't stop speaking to him for a week....
:(
We are in fact all idiots sometimes....it's the human condition.
You too Bob, and me, and Dorothy and her Auntie Em, and Toto too.....
I am feeling rather wizard of Oz'ish lately....LOL!
But really, I only posted here cuz to me this in my mind is a good example of overkill....
Maybe there is more to it than I know, but on the basis of this thread...it looks like overkill.I think ideally, if I were King...I would like to have seen something maybe like....(and keeping in mind nothing works always...)
Perhaps you could have said, "It was hurtful to me that you called me an idiot, that hurt me".
Then see what the response is....
at that point your either going to get
1. no response
2. perhaps an much more obvious uncivil response
3. an apology/rephrase that you did NOT specifically ask for, but was given FREELY, in response to the fact that you said you were hurt.Do you see the difference?
My thots...
poster:muffled
thread:971442
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20101201/msgs/972323.html