Posted by muffled on November 29, 2010, at 9:17:37
In reply to Re: sore spots, posted by Dr. Bob on November 29, 2010, at 1:15:02
"You're not silenced. You're posting. An uncivil part of you may be silenced. That I'd happy to accept responsibility for."
:( The most hurt parts inside are not necessarily 'civil' at all times. Some are angry, some are so hurt.
I am NOT supposed to 'silence' them :( I am supposed to nurture them and listen to them. THAT is support.
Friends IRL who are supportive will allow for occasional incivility when the pain bleeds.
Here, at the slightest hint...blocked, warned etc.
Then the shame comes, the 'I am bad'. Then the shrivelling retreat :(
ALOT of people have 'histories', and that is why they seek support. I had thot this was a support site. But its not, only within the very strictest paramenters.
But we are HUMAN Bob, we are hurting, we WILL screw up.
Do we need such harshness as there is here??? No.
Thats why I am not here much.
I keep hoping you will come to understand....
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