Posted by Dr. Bob on August 12, 2010, at 2:30:57
In reply to Re: lack of appreciation, posted by BayLeaf on August 9, 2010, at 7:54:38
> my former desires for this site (support, friendship, etc.) don't appear to match yours.
I also desire for you to receive support and friendship. Support and friendship require other people. Where are they going to come from?
> i can't post my feelings about therapy, etc. I haven't in a long time. It doesn't feel safe here anymore. I never know what you will do next.
On the one hand:
> > for a great many people, the permanent memory bank of the Web increasingly means there are no second chances no opportunities to escape a scarlet letter in your digital past
OTOH:
> > In the meantime, as all of us stumble over the challenges of living in a world without forgetting, we need to learn new forms of empathy, new ways of defining ourselves without reference to what others say about us and new ways of forgiving one another
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20100714/msgs/955800.html
As we stumble over those challenges, it can certainly feel unsafe.
> I would have wanted you to protect our posts and contact that other site.
Are you older than 29? Instead of depending on me to protect them, posters can protect themselves not just from that site, but all other sites:
> > 18-to-29-year-olds are actually more concerned about their online profiles than older people are ... censoring themselves as they share personal information, because they are coming to understand the dangers of oversharing
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20100714/msgs/955828.html
Bob
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backpedals well -- PartlyCloudy
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