Posted by Dr. Bob on July 9, 2010, at 1:06:00
In reply to Re: potential for hurt, posted by Deneb on July 8, 2010, at 15:39:34
> Oh, I think I get it now!
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> Dr. Bob kind of made fun of us, but in a good way that compliments us. I think he is basically saying that instead of Babblers overestimating their abilities like regular people, we underestimate ourselves (when everyone assumes their posts will not be selected as helpful).
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> I think Dr. Bob is saying we are more helpful than we think, and our answers are more valuable than we assume.
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> Dr. Bob is just saying that Babblers should see all the good they do and try not to focus on all the negatives. It's like CBT really, we need to see ourselves in our true light. Normal people see themselves as better than others and we see ourselves as worse, but neither are right.You did get it, and thanks for explaining.
I'm sorry if I hurt anyone's feelings. I see how someone could've felt put down if they thought I meant that literally.
Thinking I meant it literally would actually fit with a "Lake Wobeher effect": not only do posters themselves underestimate their abilities, but also they see me as underestimating them.
Bob
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