Posted by Dinah on December 10, 2009, at 9:16:02
In reply to Re: editing posts after submission, posted by Dr. Bob on December 10, 2009, at 5:05:32
Honestly, though, Dr. Bob. I'd appreciate it if you could explain, from the recipient's point of view, why someone would feel their hurt lessened. Let's use a couple of different examples rather than
"F*ck you, Dr. Bob"
changed to
"Bless you, Dr. Bob"
since your reaction likely isn't really typical.
Pretend you're another poster, and tell me how you think that recipient poster's thought processes would go if they read:
"You are a self righteous b*tch. I hate you and wish you were dead. You constantly lick Dr. Bob's *ss, and pretend to be all nice but really you are a vicious b*tch."
Then that was changed to
"I'm angry with you."
or even
"You are just so sweet."
What do you see the recipient's feelings being upon seeing the amended version if they've already seen the former version. What do you think that their thought processes would be?
What if they hadn't seen it, but lots of other people had, what do you foresee happening? How do you think people will respond? Will it make a difference how well liked the uncivil poster and the recipient poster may be? What do you think the thought processes would be from those who read it. You think this would lead to board harmony. So you must have some idea in mind about how people will react. What do you foresee happening?
How about on the meds board, if someone changes
"You are unbelievably ignorant about medications. You should just shut up and quit confusing people."
to
"I'd like to propose an alternate way of looking at this."
How about if a poster posted"You are fat and disgusting."
and then just removed the sentence.
I'm really interested in your thought processes, Dr. Bob. Because I'm not sure how you think posters think. And I really do want to know that or I will never be able to understand what you're saying.You keep repeating that amending it will lessen hurt feelings, so that wouldn't really explain things to me. Could you expound on that to say what precisely you think a poster would think if they saw the original and then the subsequent post?
Could you say what you think third party posters would think, or how it would play out on board, and whether you think it would be different if it was a popular or unpopular poster posting and/or receiving?
And really, any quick look back at the archives would point out that while the vast majority of posters might not do this, there have always been a small minority who have done similar enough things to make this not unlikely. This is open to the entire world. It isn't a closed community of known and trusted Babblers.
I get that the amendment of reality doesn't matter enough to stop this change to Babble, even though you understand that it is crazymaking. But I really am curious as to what you see as the benefit? Please don't be a broken record about this. I'm making the effort of having a conversation.
Nadezda explained things from the writing poster's point of view. But obviously my nature, and what I perceive as being the natural reaction of others, isn't what you see human nature as being. I just can't imagine what you think the recipient poster's point of view may be.
poster:Dinah
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