Posted by Dinah on November 23, 2009, at 11:11:47
In reply to Re: editing posts after submission, posted by Nadezda on November 23, 2009, at 10:22:06
Real words can't be taken back.
People have to live with the consequences of having spoken them.
How is it fair to send the words out, have them hit their mark and draw blood, then have them disappear after the damage is done. And how is that not cowardly? If words are regretted after they are out there, an honest apology suits as well. We all say things we regret. But pretending that you can take them back with no consequences ignores the consequences to the person targeted. How is that right? No consequences to the uncivil, consequences to the person targeted.
I would make sure to instantly reply, if only a no message, to such remarks to me. And to save any remarks I saw to others, so that nothing can be denied in future.
That's what apologies are for. Or the "confirm post" step.
I can see people having lots of fun in the middle of the night. And tempting it would be too.
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