Posted by alexandra_k on April 21, 2009, at 18:56:41
In reply to Re: an opportunity, posted by Dr. Bob on April 19, 2009, at 20:46:41
I'm so glad for these threads on admin. If it wasn't for threads like these I could almost find myself being tempted to return here. Reading threads like this reminds me how people genuinely care about posters and about Babble more generally, which prompts them to put a great deal of time and energy into clearly conveying concrete suggestions for how Babble could be more friendly and accepting (e.g., by having less punative punishments) and then how Bob manages to miss that point entirely and strongly imply that posters don't care for their fellow posters insofar as they aren't working hard to encourage them to tow his line. Somehow Bob's doing this isn't considered uncivil. It isn't thought to be jumping to conclusions about the intentions of others. It isn't thought to be being uncharitable towards the intentions of others. Any suggestion that this is so is thought by Bob to be an expression of the posters pathology. Wow. So much has changed since the two or three or however many years since I have been able to get a post on the boards which isn't up for immediate deletion. As gg was fond of saying (when she wasn't snorting in a non-sarcastic fashion) 'the wheels on the bus go round and round'. Reporting my PHYSIOLOGICAL REACTION as FACT (and not as expression of feeling or opinion) I have a little throw up in my mouth right now. Quite literally.
I really can't believe that I used to support Bob in his civility rules. Whenever I couldn't understand why he interpreted those words uncharitably I'd charitably construct a little story to myself that justified his actions. Over and over and over. Over time it got harder and harder to do. Such inconsistencies between one being blocked for f*rt or sh*t without an asterisk whereas another was not. Massive searches in the archives to try and charitably construct why on earth one was a blockable offence whereas the other was not. I was destroyed when I found that I could not. Literally blown apart. There was no rhyme or reason. Bob was blocking people for up to one year for ARBITRARY reasons that weren't consistently applied. If the blocks weren't so punative one could forgive a little inconsistency. But Bob was blocking people for up to one year for ARBITRARY reasons.
Threads like this... Posters put so much time and effort into stating their views clearly. Into providing concrete suggestions of how Bob could interfeare less with the support and education that posters provide to one another here. And Bob proceeds to... Well... It starts to look like he almost willfully misses the point. Or maybe that isn't it. Maybe it is that... He just can't face it. Sometimes people have mental blocks. Something that they just can't face. Maybe this is one of those things for Bob. He just can't accept that his blocks have been damaging in a way that isn't for the good of the group after all. Maybe it would be like being a Nazi soldior or something. If you genuinely believed that killing Jews was for the good of the Aryan people then killing Jews might be distasteful to you to be sure, but if was for the good of the Aryan people so it was justified. Finding out that the Jews were people too and that one had really damaged them a great deal... Finding out that killing them really wasn't benefiting the Aryan people in any way well... I wonder how many suicides there were. Maybe the thought that the punitative punishments here are needless is something that Bob... Just can't face. I mean it is something that both posters and other professionals have been saying to him for years.
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