Posted by HappyChaiTea on February 23, 2009, at 21:39:04
In reply to looking up threads..., posted by twinleaf on February 23, 2009, at 16:30:49
My T is one who doesn't want me on here, but it is hard to give up something that has been in my life daily for several years. But there comes a time when you have to say no to the hurt, where the hurt outweighs the benefit, just like any relationship really.
I do regret trying to bring the online world into my real world. I also see how it has also segregated Babble a lot.
When I was in those babble groups who met outside IRL, too many people are put down who are not there, and even though on line we are not allowed to do so, those rules don't follow through in real life meetings sometimes.
Now that I am on the outs I know, because I hear what has been said about me. (it does get around). But I have seen how certain individuals have been singled out during these get togethers, and I am embarrassed to be part of that, because the truth gets twisted so much about those people. But then everyone pretends all is well.
Well it isn't..... grudges are kept... even if based on untrue facts...and that spills through on Babble. Sometimes when you read posts you wonder why someone is upset, but one doesn't see the entire picture, because it isn't all on line.
Babble is like the outside world, you can get hurt, and you really need to watch who you trust.But as Dr. Bob says on his site, don't necessarily believe everything you hear. This SO TRUE. You also have to know who actually you are dealing with online, and remember lies will bite you in the butt eventually.
My T actually had to tell "look you are not actually dealing with someone who is all that mentally healthy at the time, so don't allow them to define who you are."
poster:HappyChaiTea
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