Posted by rskontos on March 15, 2008, at 0:07:58
In reply to Re: dinah... » SLS, posted by Dinah on March 14, 2008, at 22:22:41
I have thought alot about this and spent most of my therapy session explaining this to my therapist. I was so upset over this, I switched most of the day before therapy since I just could not handle it, so needless to say, this has been a BIG trigger. I hold Dr. Bob responsible for his blasted silence. Not you Dinah. Although I now understand that you just tried to explain for him since he did not step forward and I think I understand that you did that in a attempt to try and diffuse a time bomb as you saw it not because he asked you too and that is something I would have done too in your situation I feel like right or wrong. so don't beat yourself up over it. Because ultimately Dr. Bob could have in the beginning prevented all of this by standing up in the right way and just put all of this up front out in the open. He could have after you too worked things out, make an announcement first and then it would have been fine. But he did not, you in the way that you tried to protect the feelings of people here you care about, spoke up about what happened hoping it would help but it backfired for some because most babblers were looking for Dr. Bob to explain.
It is ok to me now as far you are concerned as I understand your role and you are concerned everyone here. It is still not ok with Dr. Bob and his lack of concern. I don't feel like I can post. I am not sure i want my words here to be used by him. His lack of communication with us yet his statement to the Presidential Candidates about the communicative role between leadership and membership leaves me feeling empty. And deprived. I desparately need to talk to my pyschobabblers about something but now feel like I can't. I am stuck in my silence and in my head. And Dr. Bob did this. I am distressed by all this. I am switching again like crazy and had it under control. Dr. Bob is the trigger this time and he refuses to stand up and be a leader. And all it would have taken him is a small amount of time. tsk tsk. Too busy. I feel he owes me for my last session. I spent too much time in therapy talking about this board and how upset I was. Not what the intro in the beginning by his picture leads one to believe.
Anyway, Dinah this is NOT your fault it is All Dr. Bob's for FAILURE TO ACT. It is funny how one incident can make you feel like you have no where to go. Better he never figured on that, sometimes even Dr. Bob needs a PBC or a blocked for FAILURE TO ACT responsibly. Because even leaders can fail to act responsibly and need a reminder of their responsibilities. Yes, it is his site, but he does need to act accordingly and with ethics. And in this case, he has not acted with ethics. IMHO.
rsk
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