Posted by Fivefires on August 13, 2007, at 17:54:58
In reply to Please be civil » Fivefires, posted by Deputy 10derheart on August 12, 2007, at 18:01:49
> >I feel there's 'an attack' in your statement.
I did not say, 'There's an attack in your statement'. I said, 'what I felt’, and I further suggested I did NOT believe it was the poster's intention to attack.
> > There wasn't a problem very acutely visible to others until you reacted.
>What I meant here is ‘I and any others, who weren't involved in the situation occurring, and didn't have knowledge of the level of privacy there was in this poster to poster relationship' would have been less drawn to pay any attention if the poster had not responded, but instead chosen to use the babble feature if possible, or notified administration. I understand it's so hard not to react; I do it way too much. But here online, we have time 'to think' before we hit the send button. These two posters have been across the wires from me for years, so I know they've been across the wires from each other for years, and I wished, out of the length of the relationship at least, the poster had chosen one of the latter options. There would have been less pain and less publicity.
> > You may deserve to be and feel angry, but afa I understand, we're not allowed to attack one another here.
>The poster used the other poster's name and spoke to others about how she felt angry towards her in at least one post. The definition of attack is 'to speak or write against another'.
> Please don't post anything that could lead others to feel accused or put down, and please don't jump to conclusions about others.
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> If you or others have questions about this or about posting policies in general, or are interested in alternative ways of expressing yourself, please see the FAQ:
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> http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
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> Follow-ups regarding these issues, as well as replies to the above posts, should of course themselves be civil.
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> Dr. Bob is always free to override deputy decisions. His email is on the bottom of each page. Please feel free to email him if you believe this decision was made in error.
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> 10derHeart, acting as deputy to Dr. Bob
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