Posted by muffled on June 28, 2007, at 14:31:22
In reply to Re: conflict, posted by Dr. Bob on June 28, 2007, at 12:23:33
> > I think it would be nice if you could support your deputies a little bit.
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> > sunnydays
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> I agree! I'm sincerely grateful for all the work the deputies do for me -- and for Babble. They enable me to have more balance in my life, and they enable Babble to remain a supportive community. It really is a hard job, and we're lucky to have volunteers who do it so well.**See a full thot chunk. Cool. Now thats refreshing, and its good to see public thanks and recognition. It helps I bet. And for Bob to have more balance in his(your) life...wow, one time in chat we were marvelling over that you even had a mother!!! You do seem rather not-quite-real therefore impermeable to hurt etc.....
(ROFL!!! the words omniscient, omipotent come to mind....LOL!)
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> > I am trying to keep my comments civil, and sometimes that vagueness is because of the rules here. I am just trying to follow them because I understand them better than before. But this doesn't work either, because other innocent people get hurt in the process.
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> > Happyflower
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> That's a good point, being uncivil, but vague, means *more* people may feel accused or put down.
*??so being UNCIVIL and vague is even worse than being outright uncivil? Is this what you are saying? Its unclear to me. Sorry. Guess it makes sense though, cuz then others, in our low self esteem ways, tend to take it upon ourselves...:-(
Oh, I just re-read it, what I think I was trying to figger, is that the way you wrote that makes it seem like you considered HF uncivil and is that civil???
Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaackkk.
Seriously, I am getting a headache.
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> > so...I thought about this post and I suppose part of what it was about, and only part, is that sometimes (perhaps it's hard-wired) we are vigilant of possible ill intentions of others- and maybe we see it even when it isn't there ...
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> > I do think we like to argue, to find wrongs, to criticize....
> > why do we do it?
> > and we really tend to see evils in "authority"
> > is it a matter of convenience, a place to store the uncomfortable within ourselves? ...
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> > obsidian
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> Thanks for reflecting on this process. There are a number of angles that could be examined, including:
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> 1. I and the deputies are vigilant for incivility, and others may model themselves after us.
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> 2. People may be vigilant for "evil" in authority now because they've experienced it before.
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> 3. We may also "hold" uncomfortable parts for others. Such as?
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> Bob1. Now that IS interesting...I am learning bout modelling in relation to my kids. I think for me, I just hate it when people fight is all.
2.That is most likely true IMHO. I am not doubt NOT alone in my distrust of authority, cuz w/authority comes a certain amount of power (deputies here have very little IMHO) and humans being what they are, some abuse that power, and feeling powerless is a very frightening and sickening feeling....but that is in more of a cop context. Don't feel that way bout deputies. But Bob ....ummmmmm....well......hmmmmm...
3. Not sure what you mean here, but i been thru my 'I love to hate Bob' phase. And most definately YES, it was a place to put my negativities. Now that has calmed into just a general distrust...
That is MY take on those thots, I cannot speak ofr others.
M
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