Posted by Dr. Bob on January 21, 2007, at 13:08:23
In reply to Re: pointing out posts » Dr. Bob, posted by Poet on January 21, 2007, at 10:53:15
> I don't think that was uncivil. Impulsivity is one the the HIGHEST risk factors for suicide. I fear for her life. How is that uncivil??
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> Is stating the obvious ... uncivil?It can be, if it leads someone to feel accused or put down. Something like:
> > I feel scared for you, Deneb.
would be more of an I-statement and IMO more sensitive.
> I don't post to hurt her or to get her blocked, or even to change your rules. I just don't want her to end her life.
I understand, and I didn't mean to imply that anyone here wasn't trying to help.
> FWIW, the fear of losing Babble is not for myself, but for all the people who rely so heavily on this site. If you are successfully sued, you couldn't afford to keep it.
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> emSure, it could be fear that others, not oneself, might lose Babble. Deneb, even. People could also care about and be scared for me. Which I would feel grateful for.
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> The big fears for me are favoritism and the impact pressuring posts can have
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> sunnydaysI agree, it would be good if people didn't feel pressured here. How do you think favoritism might affect posters?
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> In the future I will not point out a post, even if it is requested, unless I do it via babblemail. Though I question whether under babblemail guidelines it shouldn't be allowed because it might be hurtful.
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> PoetThanks. I see what you mean, it would still be important to be civil. But at least one match wouldn't start a forest fire.
Bob
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