Posted by Dr. Bob on December 1, 2006, at 15:49:21
In reply to Re: Please be civil. I TRYING.... » Dinah, posted by muffled on December 1, 2006, at 11:29:09
> > > It just seems to me that you are comming across as rather sarcastic and confrontative.
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> So I not sure how I could have phrased that better????
> In the spirit of the intensity of this thread, I tried really hard, and really thot bout how to phrase this.Thanks for trying to help, I know it can be frustrating. One alternative way of phrasing that would've been to talk about how you felt instead what she did, for example, to use an I-statement like:
> > > I feel hurt and confronted when I read your posts.
> Thats why I put the 'It just seems to ME'.
> I thot I was owning the statement or whatever. That this was how I felt about the situation.You did own it, which I appreciate, but IMO, it's just not civil to express some feelings.
> And taken in the context of the entire post, its clear that I mean no harm, but was trying to warn Zaz, JUST AS BOB SAID on another thread here on Admin. I was trying to do the right thing......
Thanks for trying to do the right thing. It's hard to know how to help sometimes...
> I think BOTH you and I have been manipulated.....
OK, keeping the above in mind, could you please rephrase that?
Thanks,
Bob
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