I try to rephrase alone. Feedback requested.

Posted by zazenducky on November 7, 2006, at 13:51:26

In reply to Bob what's the problem? » Dr. Bob, posted by zazenducky on November 1, 2006, at 8:05:33

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When I percieve the actions of others as not what I might have hoped for, I have found it useful to attribute their actions to themselves and not to me. I have found it useful to practice being nonjudgmental and look only at their actions and not speculate on their motivations or take on responsibility for someone else's actions.

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thank you :) (nm) » sunnydays zazenducky 11/6/06
I try to rephrase alone. Feedback requested. zazenducky 11/7/06
:-) ;-o :-)Good on ya!LOL (nm) » zazenducky muffled 11/7/06

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