Posted by Dr. Bob on June 30, 2006, at 5:38:53
In reply to Re: Sigh, Bob, your back to your one liners AND, posted by Jost on June 29, 2006, at 11:35:38
> The question was whether it would prevent others from posting later.
>
> If you see what I mean...Ah, now I see. That's true, if something's deleted, you don't have to worry about it provoking people, but OTOH not deleting it
> > offers the advantages of clarifying the limits for others, modeling conflict resolution, diminishing any paranoia about activity "behind the scenes," and allowing others to contribute to the process.
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/research.html#Best> Anyway. My other thought is that on the other MBs I've frequented (in the past--not psychology-related), I was able to delete, or at least substantively revise posts after having posted them.
That's come up here before and is on my to-do list, see:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20030404/msgs/224641.html
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20050823/msgs/546521.html> One thing I really like about Pbabble is that you can really see how your post reads before committing to posting it ... So you get a much clearer sense of what you're saying ... and can make better decisions about wanting to go through with it
Thanks, that's the idea.
> On the other hand, sometimes I was intemperate--or more intemperate than I wanted to be-- so I would either restate or delete occasionally, a few minutes, or even an hour after posting. (of course, you have to be careful that no one has replied--or, if someone has, that you explain that they're responding to something you'd rather not leave up--which of course is your choice, but otherwise they look rather odd.) Then I didn't feel like a bad person for having stated things in a cutting or huffy way, or having somewhat euphemistically (but nonetheless) derogated someone.
I understand. But people can go back and apologize even if they can't (yet) restate or delete...
> I think it's interesting that Bob has set it up this way. I like the permanency, in a way, because it creates an amazing historical record of truth, not made nicer or glossed over. I especially like the idea that this accepts and includes "bad" impulses and expressions--as if saying that we can all get carried away, and say mean things, and yet we'ere basically accepted as part of the community--and we can accept this about one another, without having to deny or erase it--so this part of all of us is acknowledged,, even though it's important to try not to act on the impulse.
Again, thanks, that's the idea.
> On the other hand, I have the feeling I'm going to eventually get blocked. Because I'll lose my temper about something someday, I'm sure. And I might very well have regretted what I said, perhaps even as soon as thirty seconds after I said it. That prospect I don't like.
Again, I understand. You might or might not eventually get blocked. Remember that it doesn't hurt to apologize. And that even if you do lose your temper, you're still basically accepted as part of the community. :-)
Bob
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