Posted by gardenergirl on June 21, 2006, at 17:14:00 [reposted on June 21, 2006, at 18:02:17 | original URL]
In reply to Re: Please be civil » TexasChic, posted by TexasChic on June 20, 2006, at 22:18:36
I guess I'm just troubled, because I can't see how anyone can really know these things about others. They're inferences at best. No one really knows what's in another's heart, mind, or soul.
> Surely no one would get offended because they consider themselves one of the uptight, rude, brainless people?
They might feel offended if they thought they were being labelled as such. Many labels have derogatory or otherwise critical views embedded in them. That doesn't make the labels themselves wrong, but applying them to another group can lead that group to feel put down or offended. And even "uptight, brainless, rude" people, whoever they might be have feelings, don't they? I ask again, if you thought you were being labelled as such, how would you feel?
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> I kind of understand why you PBC'd Michael, like I said, its very easy to misconstrue in this environment. I however, read it as his way of trying to say that we, people dealing with 'mental illness' (I sure would like another term for that), are not beneath others. In fact, our introspective, obsessive nature may even make us more aware of other people's feelings.I like how you said that. It's a positive message that does not contain negatives about others.
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> Could this possibly be one of those 'reword situations' to let the poster know his comments might be misunderstood?I suppose it could be, but actually Dr. Bob considers a "please rephrase" as more serious than a PBC, since it requires an action on the poster's part.
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> I don't know, I'm just speculating, not trying to question. I just figure we all have to work together if we want this place to work, so I'm throwing in my two cents on post interpretation. I don't even begin to claim that I know, well, pretty much anything. ;-)I appreciate your thoughts.
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> Sorry, its way past my bedtime. I have to go for tonight. Talk to yall later.Hope you slept well.
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