Posted by gardenergirl on June 21, 2006, at 16:25:47
In reply to Re: DNP's and notification » Dr. Bob, posted by Larry Hoover on June 21, 2006, at 6:34:57
I know Larry cannot reply to this post, but I wanted to answer his question and comment a bit about DNPs. Larry, please feel free to email me about this post if you wish. I've tried to answer your question, but I've also added my thoughts about DNP's in general.
> > For the record, a DNP to a deputy would apply to them posting as a poster, but not as a deputy.
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> > Bob
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> I thought it was very clear that I was making a rhetorical point. My DNP to gardenergirl was a demonstration. I very shortly after rescinded it, as I never intended for it to persist. It was a demonstration DNP.I think Dr. Bob was taking this opportunity to make a point to everyone about deputies and DNP's, not necessarily to tell just Larry based on his post. Because it would be a tricky thing if someone wanted to DNP me or another deputy. We still have our deputy duties, and I'm glad Dr. Bob agrees that we could post to another as a deputy despite a DNP if needed.
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> Ask gardenergirl what it felt like to have that happen to her? You trust her judgment, right?Larry, if you are asking this, here is what I remember about my reaction, warts and all. I read the first post and laughed. I thought it could be a clever way of trying to avoid deputy action from me, since I had informed you I was writing a PBC to you. I also briefly considered the personal implications of a DNP from you and realized that it would be about your feelings and needs. I realized that outside of deputy actions, I had no problem respecting that.
Maybe I'm cold or in some other way repressing an emotional response, but I've never read a DNP to me that led to more than a shrug and a note to self to remember not to post. I guess I view them differently.
Finally, I read your rescind post and realized you were making a point. I was not offended.
I do think there needs to be a clearer way of notifying about a DNP. I think at the very least, it needs to be in a subject line, not just within the body of post. I also do not think there needs to be harrassment or any other identified reason, as we all can be triggered by someone else for different reasons. Although I do think that it should be used flippantly or excessively. I do not know how that could be measured and addressed, however.
I like the idea of a form, as Dr. Bob linked to. I do not think there needs to be an identified reason.
I worry about letting another post go through before acknowledging/informing, because that post could sure be a doozy. I suppose ideally, the system would have something in place that simply would not let another person post "to" someone if there were a DNP in place, but that would also get tricky. But then no one would have to worry about breaking it accidentally, as they would get a "sorry, can't make this post" message of some kind.
But I do think that the concept of DNP's is a good tool for someone to cope with triggers or conflict. I think of it as a self-care tool, and folks have a right to use it. It helps me to think of it in this way, because then it's not about me, it's about their needs. And I think that a person has the right to keep it in place as long as they need to.
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