Posted by JenStar on January 18, 2006, at 23:31:09
In reply to Re: Posting with love » Dinah, posted by Toph on January 18, 2006, at 10:16:57
I disagree that people do not have the capability of controlling their responses, especially over the internet, where there is the ability to step back, rephrase, retype. Whether people WANT to control themselves or put the necessary effort into it is another issue, though.
If people do not have the ability to control their responses, then it's possible that they do not belong in internet chat groups and forums that rely on a basic level of self-restraint and self-editing in order to function at a successful group level.
This isn't therapy here, not formal therapy anyway. And as a private site, it can be set up to follow the rules of the administrator(s). In individual therapy, there are still "rules" of a type -- I'm sure that gross incivility or physical attacks could end therapy immediately, as could other transgressions on the part of the client. Even if the client could NOT control him/herself, that does not mean that he/she "deserves" therapy or is "owed" therapy in some sense.
If we want to participate in this site, we have to abide by the rules, like them or not. If we will not or cannot abide by the rules, we will be excluded eventually -- that's just the way this site (and life, too, right?) works... (in my opinion, anyway!)
I'm not saying that I agree with all the decisions made here - I don't. BUT, even so, I understand why the decisions were made.
JenStar
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