Posted by Sarah T. on January 7, 2006, at 13:13:12
In reply to Re: Dr. Bob, a few questions. . . » Sarah T., posted by Dinah on January 7, 2006, at 10:57:57
Hi Dinah,
I have to think about your post for a while. For now, I'll just say that I think it depends a lot on the extent of the threats, how long they've been going on, on this board, and whether or not the person is getting help and treatment. I've read many of your posts over several years, and I know that you are actively engaged in, and committed to, getting well. And you haven't let up on this committment, in spite of the numerous tragedies you experienced in a very short period of time.
I understand that if someone is new to this board and/or new to therapy, they may not know yet that there are healthier ways to cope with their feelings. They may not know yet that everyone has problems, that we will always have problems, and that what's important is how we choose to deal with those problems. But, as far as this most recent problem is concerned, that is not the case. During the most recent incident, it seemed that no matter what other Babblers did or said, the threats escalated, to the extent that the person claimed to be taking an overdose WHILE she posted here. Some Babblers "opted out," and refused to participate in those threads. Others became worried and tried to help with a "tough love" approach. Others tried to help with the "infinite patience" approach. It didn't matter. The threats escalated. This cycle seems to happen every few weeks, and the cycles began months ago.
I have a feeling about the threats that may or may not be accurate, but I know I'm not alone in feeling this: I feel as if I'm being toyed with. It's hard to describe, but it's a feeling of being lured or tantalized. I feel as if I'm being fooled. Several years ago, there was a similar pattern of incidents with someone who was blocked for months, only to return under a different name. Things were OK for a while, and then the cycle started all over again. Finally, she "outed" herself, and many of us felt as if we'd been played for fools -- again.
I have to log off now.
S.
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