Posted by Tamar on August 26, 2005, at 4:10:07
In reply to Re: And another issue - post deletion » Tamar, posted by rainbowbrite on August 25, 2005, at 20:51:34
> This is the problem. If a person knows your screen name then they know EVERYTHING. I am just suggesting there be exceptions to the rule.
> I dont know...> I know what you mean about lives be similar etc its just when your name is known....:-( and then its too late to change.
I suppose the question that comes to my mind is: how would someone know your screen name? Unless you tell them… or if you tell one person and then they tell someone else… Or if you post from a public computer and they access the site after you, perhaps there might be a way of finding out.
I was thinking… one way to keep your identity hidden is perhaps to post occasional misdirections, like for example saying you live in a city that you don’t actually live in, or referring to partners or friends by name, but not their real names. (I’ve got a devious mind, eh?) But that involves constructing aspects of a different identity and it can be hard to sustain! And it would be all for nothing if you ever actually tell someone your screen name.
I dunno… I guess it’s theoretically possible to undo things you’ve said on Babble by deleting posts. But it’s not possible to undo things you might have said IRL, like if you’ve ever told someone your screen name. And maybe that’s the significant issue.
It sounds to me as if you’re feeling quite unsafe and anxious, and I don’t know your circumstances so I don’t know the whole story. But I would say that if you think someone knows your screen name it might be a good idea to change it so that you can feel confident about future posts. And I don’t know if you’re in therapy, but if so it might be worth talking about the possible consequences of people you know IRL learning very personal things about you, and about your fears concerning people’s knowledge of details of your life. But I think I’ve digressed away from the original topic…
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