Posted by gabbii on August 4, 2005, at 16:35:54
In reply to Re: THANK YOU FOR YOUR SUPPORT!!!!!!!!!, posted by Nickengland on August 4, 2005, at 5:41:36
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> The purpose of this board in such extream measures is not for the aid of the last resort measures of a suicidal individual. If someone is reaching out, firstly using the internet, thwhether or not they take their own life at the end of the day.I think I misunderstood that sentence, or applied two meanings to it. Yes of course it is an individuals responsibility whether they commit suicide. I took this line though :
**then this site www.dr-bob.org as their last resort, they are held for their own responsibilty***
As a criticism of how someone's choice in dealing with their feelings.
I was using Barosky's comparison of the P.B.C Theresa got when obviously upset, to someone being highly emotional and suicidal and possibly getting p.b.c'd.
I don't think this site is geared for suicidal people, or should be counted on for that. I do believe that a rebuke when someone is obviously severely distressed could have tragic consequences, yes it is up to the individual to make the final decision, but as this is a site for mental health, I wish there was more leeway when high emotions aren't directed at anyone else.
That's all.
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> The internet is a 'virtual' world and the rules of this site are not the same rules of that in real life - in actual fact the existance of people here and the very rules themselves equate to a person taping in a keyboard and looking a monitor at text and living by the existance of ''virtual' rules. This site is not intended to treat or diagnose and certainly function as a tool for keeping suicidal people alive who are reaching out. If such people are at such a point in there life where they are willing to base a persons reply, be it that of a member or an administrator's written response or whether or not they live or die - take their own life, they are held fully responsible for their own actions....in the same way if they flip a coin that day and it lands heads, or if the sun don't shine, or if their mother doesnt call, or if she does call but doesnt say 'i love you' before she says good bye, or if they get blocked for an internet forum. At the end of the day they themselves decide whether or not they take their own life.
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> Afew things to consider would be... you could always try to abide by the rules. The civiliy rules look like there prety much here to stay so you can either fight them or ride the wave with them. If you decide to go along with them you can focus your energy on using the site for the most positive reasons and so avoid conflict where possible.
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> If you go up against them..remember your voice is limited here which means your only probably end up getting frustrated - then possibly warned - then blocked. Go up against them again and the cycle continues. Not much of 'feel good' factor there I would of thought.
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> Maybe you feel the rules stink, should be scraped, you'd be a better adminstrator, "you'd run the place far better if you *owned* it" Hey maybe you would. Only thing is you don't *own* it. Options, open your own forum? Or if you can't beat em', join em' Sometimes perhaps its better to work as a team rather than fighting against the 'leader' At the end of the day, what Dr Bob says and what his judgement and final call is - is exactly that...his call.
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> It is your privilege to post here, you don't pay for membership, but at the same time you can recieve a mass of information for free. It really is quite a bargin when you look at it from some angles. I always think its better to draw positives where possible.
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> Finally if you really detest the practice and function of this site so badly that you just want to see it shut down and no matter what happens you just don't like what goes on here.....well being a hetrosexual male i'm not into wearing pink knickers, for this reason I dont hang around the places that sell them.
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> Kind regards
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> Nick
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