Posted by 10derHeart on July 14, 2005, at 11:23:59
In reply to Re: sorry to interrupt, but can't help it... » 10derHeart, posted by alexandra_k on July 13, 2005, at 16:23:45
> Well... Glad you got a giggle out of it :-)
Hmmm, I think I really messed up here, Alex. I was not laughing AT you, in any way, shape or form, you know.
Never.
The phrasing just struck that place in my mind where I suddenly *see* Dr.B as an actual rock.... or even more, picture you smacking your head up against him as he stays serene and even impenetrable....(I have a VERY vivid imagination...)> I really did mean that in the most respectful way possible.
Right. That's what I meant to be saying, though now I see I really did an awful job of mixing in sarcarm, humor and seriousness to the point the really light-hearted meaning may have got all muddled...
I used the comparison to my ex-T 'cause immediately after saying I was a "challenge," he went on to write several more sentences about how we'd challenged each other working together and both grown as a result, and how I'd taught him so many things he knew would help him be a better therapist, etc.
>>I'm not too good at this, sorry about that.
You're very good at this, and I see nothing to be sorry for. I'm sorry I sent weird, confusing messages with my poor writing :-(
> I just mean that Doc John seems to be more responsive which sometimes may be perceived as being fairly reactive. Dr Bob seems to be consistently rather careful with what he does say which sometimes can be perceived as being rather aloof / distant.Yup. I totally get that.
> I just think they kind of go in different directions when under pressure. I've never seen Dr Bob respond out of anger or anything like that - but then he seems to get more distant and cryptic with his remarks instead.Yeah. Andlike Dinah, I found your comments insightful.
I was trying to sort of jokingly point out how you can use a metaphor that's fairly blunt, yet because of your history here and/or with Dr. Bob, it's all good. Pulled out of context, I suppose the rock description could be taken various ways.
But I KNEW you didn't mean it in any *bad* way, but more to illustrate a difference, and to speak the truth of your perception of Dr. Bob.
Honestly and freely, but with respect.
It's why I said you are *cool.*It seems so great to see you free to do that, and to write plainly without excessive worry about not saying this or that as it might "come out wrong."
Which is me too often, I guess.
So I was envying you a bit.
And celebrating your respectful, sometimes funny and basically sound/good relationship with Dr. Bob here. At least it looks like that to me :-)If I communicated something else, I'm sorry.
Gosh, I LEARN so much here about words and people! Hope this learning episode didn't seem to be carelessly "at your expense," so to speak.
I'll do better next time...and every time, I hope....Okay, not the best clarification, but I wanted to try.
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