Posted by Dr. Bob on July 11, 2005, at 9:06:59
In reply to Re: Shocked at how far this has gone... » thuso, posted by gabbii on July 10, 2005, at 11:55:56
> Please do not post/babblemail to me. » gabbii
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> jayThat was in response to a post by her to So, not to you, so may I ask why it made you feel harassed -- or for some other reason want to disengage?
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> No, I do not feel comfortable sharing. At least not publicly. Just asking me that question is asking me to say something that will come out as accusing - and I'm not going to go there.
Thanks for keeping it civil here. If you'd feel comfortable sharing by email, I'd still be interested...
> Those involved know what I mean. Or they should.
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> AuntieMelWell, sometimes things we "should" know ourselves have to be pointed out to us... :-)
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> when someone posts something that has all kinds of information about you and what you have done and you don't think it's fair or accurate, how do you set the record straight?
Is may not always be necessary to, um, revise the record, but if it is, that can be done without replying to someone who's asked not to be replied to.
> I think that Emmy is also a victim here. Because the block was so long, and even she felt it was out of proportion to the alleged offense, she is feeling the wrath of other babblers and so now she is leaving here. The unfairness of the length of the block put her in a very bad situation too. She needed her concerns listened to and acted upon. I think that had Larry been given adequate clarification and warning, he would have desisted. She would have felt relieved and both of them would still be with us!
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> KaraI agree that both have been hurt, but I still don't think it's all because of the block, or because of insufficient clarification. IMO, it's also just a challenge to co-exist sometimes. Some ideas have already been posted, but I still wonder how Larry and Emmy might co-exist more successfully. And how their friends might help.
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> What I meant by knowing all the details was what happens behind the scenes to bring this about, extenuating circumstances.
> It isn't all just what is on the board.
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> gabbiiI think it makes it even harder to agree if some people are taking into account factors that others aren't even aware of...
Bob
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