Posted by Tamar on July 10, 2005, at 11:17:22
In reply to Lou's reply to Dr./ Hsiung's reply to Lou-shun? » Dr. Bob, posted by Lou Pilder on July 10, 2005, at 9:40:31
Hi Lou,
For what it’s worth, I didn’t imagine for a moment that the suggestion not to read would allow people to think it’s OK to shun you.
Quite the reverse, in fact: I thought the effect was to indicate that your feelings are valuable and that you shouldn’t be accused or put down. And that if anyone finds it difficult to read your posts without responding in an uncivil manner, maybe it’s better not to read.
And also, Lou, I don’t like to see people being uncivil to you. I kind of wish that people would simply not read or not post rather than posting things that put you down. Maybe it’s wrong of me to wish that. I don’t know.
Having said that, I also didn’t think that the suggestion not to read referred specifically to your posts. I thought it was fairly general advice that could apply to anyone’s posts. It was in the context of an exchange between you and another poster, but its application could be taken much more widely.
For example, I can imagine that some people here don’t warm to my posting style. Clashes of style are not unusual in a community this big.
It’s possible that some people experience a reaction to my posts that would lead them to respond in an uncivil manner. And I would prefer it if those people didn’t read my posts, rather than reading and responding in an uncivil manner. If that means they don’t click on a post with my name next to it, I don’t mind.
I’d prefer to be heard by most people and ignored by those who would get angry, rather than heard by everyone and yelled at by some.
But that’s just me. How do you feel about it?
Best wishes,
Tamar
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