Posted by Gabbi-x-2 on June 7, 2005, at 1:38:06
In reply to Re: I worded that poorly. I apologize., posted by alexandra_k on June 6, 2005, at 23:01:38
> My point was...
> That it isn't that the values are different.
> It is just that you are weighting the value differently.
> Everyone seems to value inclusion and think that exclusion is a bad thing.
> So it is about weighting the inclusion versus the exclusion and making a decision.
>
> With respect to small boards...
>
> Everyone is welcome to join.
> But the constraint is joining before x number of people have joined.
>
> With respect to the Babble party...
>
> Everyone is welcome to go.
> But the constraint is having the means available to get there and having the spare time.
>
> In both cases the intention isn't to exclude people.
> The intention is to make people feel more included.
>
> But the reality in both cases is that people can't join / go who would like to.
>
> Sorry if you don't like the comparison, but I have to say that it strikes me...
Sorry if you don't like this comparison but...Boards: Everyone is welcome to join.
> But the constraint is joining before x number of people have joined.There are other options, people don't need to be openly excluded. Of course everyone can join! "This is a group of three, oh sorry too late!"
It is a self negating concept to say it's open
to everyone but only a select number can join.
With respect to the Babble party...
>
> Everyone is welcome to go.
> But the constraint is having the means available to get there and having the spare time.
I do not think they are comparable.I can't concieve of anyone thinking they are comparable. Life isn't math.
Everyone was invited, if everyone had showed up it would have been great. Life placed the constraints on who could go or not, NOT Babble and NOT those who attended the party.
I remember you saying to me, when I was saying that I felt left out, but was trying to explain that I didn't think there was anything wrong with the party, that you did't want the people who attended the party to feel bad about going. Don't you think this might have that effect?
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