Posted by Dr. Bob on February 9, 2005, at 23:17:59
In reply to Re: my house - hang on a second » Dr. Bob, posted by AuntieMel on February 9, 2005, at 12:37:51
> Dr Bob, why do you feel we need more and smaller ... boards, again? Is it because the ones we have are getting so large (lots of threads, and long ones)?
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> pcI haven't meant to imply that I think anyone in particular "needs" anything. But I do think some people might like cozier options. One size doesn't fit all?
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> > > I wouldn't want to get cozy with anyone that could.
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> > Sorry, but please be sensitive to the feelings of others and don't post anything that could lead them to feel accused or put down, thanks.
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> I don't see anything insensitive about saying - in essence - "I wouldn't want to {be in a 'cozy' room with} anyone that could {feel cozy with not allowing someone in.} I'm talking about how I feel, not anyone else.It's fine for you to feel that way, but I'm afraid posting it could lead someone to feel accused or put down, so could you please not?
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> > > Even then, there was not a finite number of people that could join. It was just the way things developed that it started small and then grew.
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> > That would be a difference, yes, but still each of them could start small and then grow...
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> Well, actually they can't keep growing, can they? Isn't that the point?They could keep growing to the size of 2000...
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> > We could have going out of town open up a spot...
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> An out-of-town opening would only be temporary, right?We could have it be permanent...
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> Well, actually, as one who was shoved into a "small town" environment {I was in third grade and had experienced better} where only third generation townies were accepted {this applied to the kids, too} I know only too well what it feels like to be on the outside looking in.
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> I swore that I wouldn't do that to others, or pre-judge anyone.Thanks for reflecting on experiences that may be playing a role in how you're reacting to this.
1. No one here would be shoved anywhere. Or pre-judged.
2. I think people here would be more accepting than the people there were.
3. If you don't want to do that to others, don't. Be supportive of everyone on your small town board. :-)
4. Was that town growing?
> But now that you mention it... crudely borrowing from Orwell, I *do* envision "All cozy rooms are created equal. But some cozy rooms are more equal than others."
And what would make some more equal?
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> > > How about a separate (expandable) room for those that think there should be no walls.
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> > How would that be different from Social?
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> What's wrong with social?I didn't mean to imply anything was wrong with Social, I just meant we already have an expandable room...
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> And about the house - sure it's finite in size. But you wouldn't know it - I can always squeeze in more. One time, BD, I had a backyard BBQ and hubby comes home and says 'I hope you don't mind but I invited about 20-30 people and their spouses.' My answer? 'I guess I can't fuss at you 'cause I just did the same thing.'
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> Most of them showed up.
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> Mel1. Was it cozy?
2. What if it had been 200-300?
Bob
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