Posted by alexandra_k on January 24, 2005, at 0:42:48
In reply to Re: Lou's request to Dr. Hsiung-B, posted by justyourlaugh on January 24, 2005, at 0:30:57
I am sorry that I started the poll / petition, whatever now.
I didn't mean to make things worse.
But I do think things have escalated rather.I really do not think that Lou intends to hurt anyone. I believe that his requests for determination are done with the intention to clarify the rules. Not only for him but for everyone, so as to benefit the forum as a whole.
I have had my differences with Lou, however. But I don't think he intends to hurt anyone.
But sometimes hurts result despite intentions. And sometimes we need to learn to deal with feeling hurt and traumatised. That can be really hard. It can be really hard when we believe that others could stop the bad feelings. But sometimes there are reasons not to. And if people never did anything we found hurtful we would never learn to be stronger.
Angel Girl, I am sorry for your pain. But I think your pain, or at least the extent of it is more the result of what has happened to you previously than this particular situation.
I can understand how Lou's request was a 'last straw'. But I also think that Lou cannot or does not. Not out of cruelty or malice. We are who we are. Let he who is without sin cast the first stone...
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