Posted by 64bowtie on January 10, 2005, at 1:37:02
In reply to Re: Re: » 64bowtie, posted by Dinah on January 9, 2005, at 12:18:52
(((Dinah))),
The posting at the bottom will clarify.
Except, I wasn't talking to Lou. I was talking to DrBob about Lou. If you were talking to DrBob about me, I'd let you without contempt. You can talk to whomever you choose to about whomever you need to. Please let me do the same.
I am asking for a point of order here. I'm not "dissing" Lou to ask DrBob a question about Lou. Niether would you be guilty of "dissing" me if you asked DrBob a question about me.
Be aware that boundaries are an intellectual abstract concept with a label that seems very physical. Example seems to be the only source of insight leading to appropriate results accross all populations. So, that said, let this be an example of the violation of a boundaary, rightly or wrongly.
I pass no judgement as to Lou's goodness or badness. I do report that Lou has encroached on a boundary! Feeling "dissed" misses the message. I am not reporting a judgement, a moral evaluation. I am reporting that the boundary has been transgressed, and Lou was the do-er of the transgression of the boundary. That makes no claim as to feelings of goodness or badness.
If DrBob doesn't see it that way, that's OK by me. What Lou sees is held in suspension until DrBob gets involved. If what I see doesn't match-up with what Lou sees, that may or may need to be sorted out later. It'll then be up to Lou and his ability to see.
Carefull! I didn't say what Lou feels. I said, "What Lou sees!"....
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20041218/msgs/439988.html
Rod
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