Posted by alexandra_k on October 31, 2004, at 15:04:33
In reply to Re: phrasings, posted by Dr. Bob on October 31, 2004, at 11:15:05
> > I don't think that peoples attempts to explain their feelings to you have been well received.
>> I thought it could be taken as:
> > You received peoples attempts poorly.There are a variety of ways in which one 'can' take various things. While I agree that I would have appropriately been PBC'd for your rephrasing I take issue with the way that you have chosen to interpret it.
(1) I never said anything about Lou, which is perhaps implied by your interpretation.
(2) I qualified my statement by saying 'that is what I think'. While one could consider that I just tagged a bit on the front I chose the phrasing I did because I was expressing my thoughts and responses to Lou, not attempting to communicate facts about him.
(3) What I meant was that when people attempt to explain their feelings to him, that seems to result in a request to not post to him. I have to say that I consider this to be an abuse of the 'please do not post to me rule'. It doesn't seem to me that this request follows a drawn out process where resolution seems unlikely. At least, not in my case.I was hurt that you ignored my hurt until Dinah expressed a similar take. I had to say that I felt hurt and accused twice before you decided to ask for a rephrasing.
I apologise for the dart board comment.
And for the comment about being difficult (sigh).
But I am afraid I cannot apologise for this one, because when I do give an apology it is genuine and I still do not understand this PBC. While I grant one COULD interpret it in the manner you have done I do think that doing so distorts what I actually did say.
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