Posted by Kali Munro on October 5, 2004, at 20:32:18
In reply to Re: Since you only have 'til thursday... » Kali Munro, posted by AuntieMel on October 5, 2004, at 17:08:05
I read some of the threads but I gave up reading after awhile -- it was too much! :)
One dynamic I see is a tendency to be forceful of one's views on both "sides" of the equation. I think some people felt that the consecutive poster was being "pushy" while being rather forceful themselves. I wonder what would have happened had someone said, "Hey, I'm sure you have some interesting things to say, but when you write so much I can't read it all -- it's too much for me to read! If I don't read everything, I'm not going to know what you're saying and be able to respond to you. I'd be far more likely to respond to you if you could write less. Do you think you could try that?" Naturally, it would carry more authority if Bob said it, but what about a deputy?
Personally, if I were a member, I would have had little patience for reading and responding to many of the poster's posts and would have chosen not to read them after awhile.
If I were the moderator, I might have wanted to check the pulse of the community and asked the original poster to post less. Likely one difficulty that would have arisen is the poster would have asked for an amount of posts and that it be applied equally to all.
I would have wanted to try to communicate with him that this wasn't a black and white issue, in other words, there may be times that people need to write a number of posts consecutively but it wouldn't be the norm. So, to create a rule because one person is doing it a lot wouldn't be fair to those, including him, who might do it occassionally.
I would also want to discuss with him that his tendency to post a lot gets in the way of his being heard and understood and responded to. I likely would have wanted to have addressed the issue with him directly and help him to see the impact on *him* (i.e. many people feeling like they couldn't communicate with him)
I see how intense it all got and another dynamic I see was that assumptions were made without checking them out. For example, rather than saying "are you doing X?" and then proceed to assume someone is doing X, I would want to ask what the person was trying to achieve. I imagine he wanted to be heard and that wasn't likely going to happen if he wrote so many posts. If he wanted Bob to hear him, and some of his posts were directed to Bob, then I would have left that thread to Bob.
That's my thoughts at this moment.
Kali
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