Posted by Dinah on September 27, 2004, at 10:21:13
In reply to Re: Maybe it's just me...... » karaS, posted by AuntieMel on September 27, 2004, at 9:35:39
But I don't see a major problem here. I haven't really seen where Lou makes multiple requests to a fellow poster for clarification, because he knows that would violate the civility guidelines. And since Dr. Bob has complete control of the board, if Dr. Bob felt harassed by multiple posts, he can do something about it.
I admit that I wouldn't feel good about having one of my posts brought to Dr. Bob's attention. It would scare me and make me sad.
But most of the posts Lou brings for Dr. Bob to review are about Lou, or appear to be about Lou, so the solution seems easy to me. And the others are like any other of us complaining about a post. I've done it myself. I think it might be a good general rule to do it in email rather than on the boards, but that's part of Admin's purpose. It never feels good, but it's not against the rules.
Lou is Lou, just as Dinah is Dinah. I see nothing wrong with that. I like Lou just fine as he is. As long as he follows the civility guidelines, which he is always very scrupulous to do, I see no reason why he shouldn't fill the Admin board with posts to Dr. Bob. I often wish the Admin board would archive more quickly anyway. I hate seeing the detritis from past disagreements.
Lou, my only advice to you would be to open your heart to others even more than you usually do and give them the benefit of the doubt. Sometimes people are genuinely trying to start a dialogue with you, even if it could be interpreted differently, or they may not have put it as well as they could have. One way to judge might be to look at the poster's previous posts. If someone consistently posts kindly, wouldn't it be unlikely that they would suddenly change? Or if they have supported you in the past, wouldn't it be unlikely that they would suddenly put you down?
For example. I'm a dedicated and avowed Semitophile. If I were to write something that appeared anti-Semitic, wouldn't it be likely that I either phrased something poorly or there was a misunderstanding?
The same goes for some of the very kind people on this board. To name just two off the top of my head, I find it hard to believe that Scott (SLS) and Toph would intentionally be unkind. If you opened your heart to them, I don't think you'd be disappointed. (Isn't there something about that in one of the gates? I could be mistaken.)
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