Re: Not at all.

Posted by Dinah on September 20, 2004, at 19:29:23

In reply to Am I the only one not allowed to feel? (nm) » Dr. Bob, posted by 64bowtie on September 20, 2004, at 19:06:51

In fact, I was impressed with your expression of vulnerability. Well done!
You just forgot to use "I statements". And adding "I feel" to the front of the sentence that got you PBC'd wouldn't have helped. But if you had concentrated completely on your own feelings without referring to the words or actions of the other poster, you'd have been well in the clear.
Don't let this deter you in your efforts. Just remember to say "I feel sad/upset/distressed at what happened." rather than describing any attributes to what happened and you'll do just fine.
If you like, you can email me with some "I statement" examples and I'll coach you on how they fit into Babble civility guidelines.

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Am I the only one not allowed to feel? (nm) » Dr. Bob 64bowtie 9/20/04
Re: Not at all. Dinah 9/20/04
Of course..................... you are wonderful (nm) » Dinah 64bowtie 9/21/04
Wooops! ...I feel.... you are wonderful (nm) » Dinah 64bowtie 9/21/04
Re: Wooops! ...I feel.... you are wonderful SLS 9/21/04
:-))) » SLS Dinah 9/21/04

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