Posted by Shar on August 20, 2004, at 16:32:13
In reply to Re: Advertising on PB Grief board, posted by Dr. Bob on August 20, 2004, at 7:35:09
Yes, I do decidedly believe that people can find ways to alleviate some of the pain, physical problems, and depression associated with bereavement. And those things can conveyed in a most respectful and thoughtful manner. In my opinion, the wording of the following (from the post in question) is neither respectful or thoughtful, nor would I inflict it upon a grieving family, nor would I want it inflicted upon me:
"What if what we have been told about all aspects of grieving is wrong?
What if there is a way to experience loss with far less pain, far less grief and far more quickly?
What if, for the first time in human history we could learn how to pass through loss with new insight and freedom?
Well all of this is now possible! It has been possilble for the last 20 years but very few people have been told about it.
It has been a BIG SECRET!!!
The brakethough came when it was discovered that
grief is NOT in the "mind", as we have been told, but in the "body"! And to free ones's self from emotional pain is as simple as touching or "tapping", easy to find, "points" on one's own body (no one else need be present). This releases the pain and the grief that the BODY holds and that can not be reached though the mind!!!
THE BEST THINGS IN LIFE ARE FREE!" ...etc.Perhaps, instead of making it sound like an infomercial, someone could have simply said "Here is a unique way I found to deal with grief, and it might help you, too." But, I think it is inappropriate for the grief board in its present format, and I also believe it contains assumptions and information that are not accurate (based on my own bereavement and hospice training and experience).
But, like I said, it ain't my board.
Shar
> > I think there needs to be some sort of respect about how hard it is to lose a loved one, and respect for the process of bereavement, and I disagree with the idea that we can "woohoo! Instantly not feel bad any more It's so easy!!!!"
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> IMO, those are separate issues, whether something works and whether it's presented in a respectful way. Would it necessarily be disrespectful to suggest to someone that there might be things they can do to feel less depressed?
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> Bob
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