Posted by Dr. Bob on August 12, 2004, at 5:10:31
In reply to Re: being sensitive to the feelings of others, posted by Dinah on August 11, 2004, at 0:59:13
> > > in the examples you give, I would say they are being questioned in an insensitive or rigid manner.
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> I can't help thinking that if a poster here made that same comment using the words insensitive and rigid, they'd be PBC'd or blocked. So how the heck are we supposed to get such points of view across to you? Geez Louise!I know, discussing whether someone's been civil invariably involves you-statements. There's always the constructive criticism option, for example: Maybe they could have asked their questions in a more sensitive manner? Or just say "insensitive", but in an email to me?
> I vote for more influence from Kali Munro. Do you think you could get her to give you some more tips, even behind the scenes if she doesn't want to be a presence here? She seems wise in such things.
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> tabithaWe stay in touch, but I think it may be less abstract to her now that she's actually visited. :-)
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> I think that *has* been the point where I've disagreed with your moderation.
Maybe the real conflict that needed to be resolved was between the moderator and the posters? :-)
> It's an area where, with the most rare of exceptions, a Please Rephrase is likely to be more suitable than a Please Be Civil or a block.
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> DinahOops, well, I'll try to remember that next time...
Bob
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