Posted by AuntieMel on August 6, 2004, at 8:59:38
In reply to Re: Examples of triggers a lot of hurt, posted by Shadowplayers721 on August 5, 2004, at 23:00:55
That was exactly what I was saying. A third party to look at the whole picture would be invaluable.
Certainly the ones you point to could trigger anyone. But, to me at least, the threads had already started to head south and it's *possible* that defensiveness played a part.
It's just that I'm having a hard figuring out which posts start the downward spiral and why. I'm convinced (on third or fourth reading) that a lot of it wasn't mean or intentional, it just was a poor choice in wording.
Take my defense of fires for example. I'm sure that a lot of folks here now consider me to be disagreeable. But I'm not trying to be. In my head my tone is conversational and calm, but on the other side of the cybercables it could *read* totally different.
I'm really just wanting to have a discussion about it, not a heated debate. To me there is a lack of logic here, and I'm more ruled by logic than feelings. I desperately need to understand!
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