Posted by Dinah on August 3, 2004, at 10:57:20
In reply to Re: thanks, and you're welcome (nm), posted by Dr. Bob on August 3, 2004, at 10:22:57
Perhaps if you could explain to *us* why our pain and sar's death, which to us were unique events and unlikely to be replicated even on this board, would be useful to the internet mental health community as a whole we wouldn't be as distressed to see our reactions in a publication.
Don't you think that the reaction was unique to sar and the unique place she held on the board? Part of what bothers me is that you are making it into *a* suicide on *an* internet mental health site. But the truth is that it always bothered me that people might think that the reaction to sar's death was standard. That the way to be remembered and loved would be to kill yourself. While the truth is that while we would, of course, mourn the death of any poster, there is no *standard* reaction to a suicide on the board. It was *sar's* suicide, not *a* suicide. If you wanted to make the publication more specific, it wouldn't bother me nearly as much.
Wouldn't you agree that if I were to commit suicide, the reaction wouldn't be at all similar? And each and every other person on the board is the same. We're all individuals, we all have unique relationships with the board, and you would need a really large sample size to draw any scientific conclusions. A large sample size that I hope you won't find here.
It would also rather interest me to see if anyone who was here at the time of sar's death feels positively about your using it in a publication.
poster:Dinah
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