Posted by Racer on March 6, 2004, at 18:00:14
In reply to Re: Civility » Elle2021, posted by Fallen4myT on March 6, 2004, at 14:21:31
Listen, here's the one place, if any such exists, where you can get support and ask questions about how to avoid the civility pits. So many people to help answer any questions about what happened, about what people think may have crossed an invisible line, about other ways of expressing the same sentiments in, perhaps, a more positive manner. Maybe it is more positive for some people to express themselves in a manner others find offensive, but for most of us, a reminder, or constructive suggestions for rephrasing are more helpful sometimes.
Instead of saying you'll leave, to save anyone bother, how about asking Dinah to point out the specific phrases she thinks cross the line? Maybe that would help your confusion a little about what might have crossed that line?
(And I think that Dinah responded to you about your post because she'd rather keep you here, and maybe other posters aren't getting the same responses because they're either new and unknown enough that no one bothers to help them learn or they've shown themselves to be unamenable to constructive criticism. Personally, I usually try to take the compliment in the PBCs, as well as the rebuke. You know, "someone cares enough to try to help me see the error of my ways...")
Hope that helps.
poster:Racer
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