Posted by tabitha on December 11, 2003, at 19:13:41
In reply to Re: does anyone else think i was unfairly blocked? » NikkiT2, posted by crushedout on December 11, 2003, at 13:16:19
> I think it's somewhat strange that Dr. Bob only looks at words and not tone, since he says you shouldn't say anything that might lead others to feel put down. That seems so broad that it should clearly have encompassed Dr. Rod's statements, especially since so many people clearly *did* feel put down. You see what I mean?
Yes I do. There are many types of verbal put-downs that are more subtle than direct insults, but rather have a sort of hidden implication that is insulting. An old book called "The Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense" listed many varieties. I honestly don't understand why Bob doesn't flag more of the subtle put-downs. Some have theorized that he's dense and just doesn't see them. When I'm feeling positive about the site I think maybe he's just giving the poster the benefit of the doubt, since it's hard to be 100% sure the hidden implication is there. Or maybe it's just a time constraint-- easier to flag the obvious trigger words and not wrangle over the somewhat questionable. Or maybe his mind really is a mystery. He doesn't help us out by explaining much of his reasoning.
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