Posted by Dr. Bob on November 7, 2003, at 18:43:27
In reply to Redirect: psychiatry, posted by Dr. Bob on November 7, 2003, at 1:40:08
Re: Redirect: psychiatry » Dr. Bob
Posted by solo_voyager on November 7, 2003, at 12:17:19
In reply to Redirect: psychiatry, posted by Dr. Bob on November 7, 2003, at 1:40:08
It's morning and I'm still a bit iratable, but ya' know drbob, I had begun this thread in the other forum for specific reasons. Because of your meddeling by moving it to this forum, it did exactly what I didn't want it to do: It degenerated into a discussion about drugs. It has since digressed into a purely social exchange as far as I'm concerned. My original question has been lost in the digressions. While there was little chance I would get an answer to my question, it's easy to blame you for my not being able to find it here. I'm not going to chase all over your personal domain so that you can keep everything pidgeonholed for your own personal agenda.
Thank you and take care Clay, Mike and everyone else that has responded to my question.
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Re: Redirect: psychiatry » solo_voyager
Posted by Clayton on November 7, 2003, at 14:32:23
In reply to Re: Redirect: psychiatry » Dr. Bob, posted by solo_voyager on November 7, 2003, at 12:17:19
Hey Solo,
I read your mesage to Dr. Bob. I think you might have worded it a tad more kindly (instead of "meddeling", "diverting discussion from my original intent". Something like that. Also, "your personal agenda"...well, of course it's his personal agenda (what else could it possibly be?) but he's just tryiing his best to keep things topically organized so the forum is useful to it's users. But, hey, he's a grown up guy and my guess is there's no harm done.
You are right in this sense. I've had the good doctor twice suggest a redirection based on single sentence excerpts from my posts that I believed in their full context directly addressed the issues and concerns of those too whom I was responding. That just has the effect of terminating the thread or, at least, my participation in it.
Note to Dr. Bob: I hope you are okay with all this!
I will do this. Locate and read your original post that started the thread and, if there is ANYTHING I can contribute, I will compose a response based on my new understanding of your intent. I would like very much to do that.
Don't find me condesceending, please, if I make the obvios suggesstions that have already occurred to you. Start a thread with a concise statement of your purpose. If you anticipate the discussion will be diverted into, say, medicine, state that you aren't interested in discusssing medicine in the particular thread in question. Also, try to skillfuly phase the "subject" line.
And lastly, I LIKE social forums. (It's okay withme if you don't.) I'm vexed by your word "degenerate" in this contxt, though. I have SAD and fall apart in front of my bosses and can't endure parties no matter how hard I try. But I like people and this type of personal forum feels "safe" to me. I crave and need human contact. You won't be able to avoid some level of social interaction here. These people are kindred spirits. Everyone knows they are talking to others who understand what they've been through when most folks on the street don't. You can say something with reasonable confidence that someone will understand you. You can discuss topics you can't discuss with other people. You can give and receive empathy. And when you're lucky, you might be able to offer some bit of information that will actually help someone. This is therapy, not in a technical psychiatric sense; it simply helps people feel better. The social interaction in this forum in particular, and especially for Social Phobics is inevitable and [I think] good. You may disagree with me and I won't be offended. And I'm sorry if it sounds like I'm lecturing or preaching. It's reaaly just my personal opinions and I tend to come across that way. Poor social skills probably in part due to a dirth of social interaction in which I could learn and practice those skils.
Anyway, Peace, man.
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