Posted by OddipusRex on April 8, 2003, at 13:22:02
In reply to Re: Lou's response to Dr. Bob's post-LR-3, posted by Dr. Bob on April 8, 2003, at 11:19:20
Dear Bob,
How are you? I am fine. By the way here are some of my thoughts about a post from someone I'm on nospeakers with. Thought you might be interested. (Are you sure this is a good idea?)
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> Here's what I see:
> Someone wrote a post asking for help because she was addicted to war coverage. She couldn't get going or motivated to do anything and would just sit all day watching the war. I suggested she use the telly as a reward for getting other things done. She absolutely couldn't watch the war coverage unless she accomplished certain things, and then she could allow herself a little bit of time, but she'd have to do other things to get more time.
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> Oddipus Rex posted something to me that wasn't exactly kind. How could I call watching the war a reward, she wanted to know. It's as if her radar zoomed in on a word without zooming in on a context.
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I posted that I couldn't imagine anyone using watching the war as a reward. I can't imagine that. Simple statement of fact.
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> A week or so later, on PB, I was talking about how people who are crying for help will usually leave clues about suicide or talk about plans for it. I mentioned that my neighbor didn't do those things, but she tried it in her house and left the stereo blasting so someone would have to come in. I added something to the effect of, "Of course, she tried it with Tylenol." My meaning was that she wouldn't die quickly, so the girl's mom would find her when her mom got home from work.
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> Oddipus posted that she didn't know what I was "implying" with that "comment."
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I posted about how dangerous Tylenol ODs were because you need to get help before it becomes obvious that you need help. My point was that although someone may think she will be found in plenty of time there is damage being done from a relatively short time after the OD is taken. My thought was that someone reading the board might take a Tylenol OD and think she was not in any danger because she was not feeling any symptoms. I said in my post that I didn't mean any offense to B as I wasn't sure what she meant by her remark. And I didn't. Was she meaning there was a long window of opportunity for rescue or did she mean exactly what I meant? (That the girl thought she would be rescued undamaged but of course she took Tylenol which is more dangerous than a teenager might realize)She posted back that she never took offense. And "Remark what Remark? I didn't make any Remark. "
I took her at her word that she wasn't offended. I was baffled by the Remark Remark. I looked it up in the dictionary but I still didn't know what she meant. She had posted to me on admin that she was more interested in grammar than ideas so I supposed she was making some arcane point about language usage. I was just trying to convey an idea and wasn't interested in having my grammar/vocabulary critiqued so I didn't respond.
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looking for an apology from Dr. Bob, a man who never apologizes. I'm with her on this, of course. So I say, "You're kidding, right?" because none of us has ever seen Bob go back on or apologize for a PBA or a comment he's made.
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> And then I'M told not to post to HER again.
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I thought of it as a request. I just didn't think I wanted to defend myself to her. I'm tired. I misinterpreted her remark this time but from the interpretation she's been giving some of my other posts......It was probably an even better idea than I thought at the time. If somebody wants to think the worst of you you just can't stop them can you? And I don't think I'm depriving myself of her wit and wisdom I think of it more as enjoying it from a safe distance. And she'll probably like me better if I don't post to her. At least now I can be pretty sure she won't like me any less.__________________________________________________________________________>
> Maybe I'm the one who doesn't get it. Here I am thinking she constantly accuses me of having some other meaning, of being underhanded, of bei> ng a cheerleader for televised death, of who knows what with Tylenol, and now I'M being told to lay off.>
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