Posted by Larry Hoover on January 19, 2003, at 10:56:42
In reply to Lost boy in NYC, posted by Arthurgibson on January 15, 2003, at 12:16:41
> I don't see why he had to be banned for 32 weeks.
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> He was banned for writing: " I honestly think you are barking up the wrong tree with your fixation on psychotherapy and pop psychology things."
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> Dr. Bob interpreted this as "...making someone feel put down."
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> But Lost Boy also wrote in the same post: "Im not saying this to come down on you, Im truly not......Again, Im not coming down on you I am just suggesting some things based upon reading and observing your posts over the past year."
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> In other words he was politely taking a different view of things to the previous poster and emphasising his respect for that poster and going out of his way to be courteous and not make her feel "put down."
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> We are real people out here posting, not the "Stepford wives." If a poster wishes to take a different view to another and does it in a polite manner, as Lost Boy did, I see no reason to penalise him.I've "known" Eric (Lostboy) for a few years now, and I have to say that I frequently take exception to his style of communicating. He's much improved, but he still speaks in disempowering terms. When I read....
Lostboy wrote:
"Again, Im not coming down on you I am just suggesting some things based upon reading and observing your posts over the past year. I think you are going about this thing all wrong entirely. Ditch the fascination with things psychology...its just making you worse, thinking about yourself more. You need to think about yourself less, which means less therapy and less psychology stuff. Get on some heavy duty meds and bomb that schizoaffective disorder back to the stone age. "....what I "hear" is that Eric is dismissing the entire therapeutic process *chosen* by another party. Moreover, he suggests that anyone with severe mental illness (I don't even like that phrase, as everyone's symptoms wax and wane) is screwed unless heavily medicated. In essence, he seeks to impose his values and weighting system onto another party. He doesn't speak of his own experience. He tries to shape another's.
Just my $0.02 (Canadian),
Lar
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