Posted by jane d on September 19, 2002, at 9:45:32
In reply to Re: Anonymous feedback on PBC and block decisions » Dr. Bob, posted by ShelliR on September 16, 2002, at 0:28:01
> Dr. Bob, it is absolutely obvious from the postings of the last few months that by far the majority of posters think that, in addition to intervening much too early and too often, that you've made some very serious mistakes. In at least two incidences, the one where a posting title didn't get changed in Sondra Dee's post and the other involving a simple joke (pun), you got no support from the participants on this board. (Yes, none).
Shelli,
For starters: Please know that I am not singling out your post for this reply, you have merely said concisely the same things that have bothered me in many other posts on this subject. *Have you missed the possibility that people who don't agree with you may not feel as free to speak up in these threads? I'm one of those people. Overall I have agreed with most of the blocks. For one thing I don't think that deliberately insulting other posters is appropriate. I'm not a fan of tough love and I don't think conflict makes this board or the people who post here any better. But that means I have a real problem jumping in on any of these threads complaining about blocks and saying "oh yeah - I thought so and so deserved it for that one." In any individual case I think that just makes people mad all over again. I realize this post may do the same thing but I can no longer stand the idea that in every future thread someone is going to say "nobody disagreed therefore everyone supports us". It's not true.
I said I agreed with most blocks. There are a few I thought were mistakes. There were more that I would have called a little differently if it were my call. Not better, just differently. I just don't feel that it is in the interests of the board to quibble over every one.
I do agree with the posters who say things are getting stricter but I place the blame for that a little differently. I think it started with the first person who said somthing like "I don't care if I'm blocked I have to tell you that you are a moron" in a dispute. It was exacerbated by every request to Bob to clarify just how mean you could be before you were reprimanded made by people who didn't want to miss out on one cutting comment that they could make. That's why there is less tolerance for honest mistakes in my opinion and I find it outrageous that the actions of intentionally cruel posters are being blurred together with true mistakes.
- Jane
*The starting disclaimer should not be interpreted as evidence that I am intimidated by the rules on civility or the possibility of conflict. I just prefer to avoid conflict based just on misunderstanding.
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